I consider myself incredibly blessed to have grown up in view of the strong, faithful, and lasting marriages of my parents and grandparents. Throughout my life I’ve observed their marriages stand fast through the trials and triumphs of life.
Now Eric and I are married and we are beginning to experience those similar ups and downs. As such, the weight of the influence their marriages have been on me is so much more significant.
Today my parents are celebrating their 33rd wedding anniversary, and tomorrow my grandparents celebrate their 67th! Both couples just as in love as the day they said ‘I do.’
As their anniversaries were approaching, I begin thinking more and more about some of the lessons I’ve learned through observing their marriages. Lessons I can now apply to my own marriage.
These are things they have probably spoken to me at one time or another. But they became real when I saw them lived out time and time again through them.
Some of the lessons I’ve learned from observing their marriages:
01. Love each other with a love like Christ.
02. Always remember you and your spouse are a team, and that relationship comes before any others.
03. Learn to speak each others’ love languages well.
04. Play to each others’ strengths and weakness.
05. Learn how to fight with the goal of reconciliation.
06. Marriage can be hard work, and takes sacrifice, but it’s far outweighed by the joy and love you gain from it.
07. Your spouse is your best friend, always have each others’ back.
08. Grow a mutual respect for each other, and always speak positively of your spouse.
09. Don’t forget to have fun and laugh together.
10. Make memories together when times are good, so you can remember them together when times are hard.
Here’s to you, Mom + Dad and Grandma + Grandpa. You’ve taught me a lot, through your advice, words, and even more so through your actions. I love you all deeply.
Happy Anniversary to you both! Thank you for showing me what a marriage can look like, when Christ is at the center.